It's a lie.
That nugget of wisdom was the most valuable thing the therapist said. It was worth every dime I paid her.
Here's the lie I believed for thirty years.
"Only a woman with ________________ is beautiful."
No, I'm not going to tell you how I filled in the blank for myself. What would YOU fill it in with?
A thin waist?
"Perfect" facial features?
However you fill in the blank, it's a lie. You've bought it because we tend to believe what we're told over and over. Our culture repeats messages that sell stuff -- like diet pills and push-up bras and plastic surgery.
How can you unbrainwash yourself?
1. Minimize your exposure to lies. Do NOT click on that site. You know the one.
2. Fill the space with voices that speak truth.
3. Do it for someone else. Which other women in your life struggle with this? (HINT: All of them) Encourage your friends. Don't let the comparison conversation start. Do you have a daughter/student/niece? Speak truth to her. Take her hand off the mouse. Or send her to good sites.
Because all that other stuff? It's a lie.
Just ask your therapist.
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